I dread it. 20 steps forward 5 steps back. Not sure what the final outcome would have been but at least I wouldnt have feelings of being a doormat over his A. Someone may have details and be kind enough to tell you. I agree. Take half. From that moment on, his personality changed. Its turned that assumption on its head. But lately, she has stopped kissing me, evenings, good night, etc. It doesnt matter what they tell themselves they just choose to cheat because they are broken and selfish. Just say what I have to say and move on. The lawyer is very good, he is highly regarded by peers. That tells you he doesnt think any of this is his doing. Strengthened my interaction with my H. Did things I hoped were productive and helpful for my family. Its a Dr Jekyll & Mr Hyde transformation. Many people have been wrongfully lynched or imprisoned in America for callous white women making up stories, and even if no such phantom patsy Hispanic was strung up on charges for Ms. Runaway Bride, it certainly would support the stereotype that is harmful to many other similarly situated Latinos. Was just spinning out there for a while. I love you but Im not in love with you which, translated technically means, I love you but I am fucking someone else and Id like to continue doing so, so you need to take the hint that you are officially surplus to requirements and let me do what I want without imposing consequences because I said I love you.. Ultimate stonewall. No one is forcing you to read my posts. He begged me for a chance to explain. And to be honest I can see what could be the birth of this idiosyncratic idea that it . Accordingly and respectfully, I cannot agree with your statement that you deserve better treatment from me as a fellow betrayed spouse. Start realizing you are an independent person dependent only on God if you are a Christian. Anyone can choose to end a M but you can do it respectfully and minimize the hurt and pain. Handling. 9. I cant solve his problems for him, but it does give me empathy. It all just hit me so hard and I couldnt even get words out on the nightly check up phone calls from my family. to try to understand what is going on with my husband. Everything, everything will be just fine and everything, everything will be alright. You can unsubscribe anytime. So crazy! Sorry but cheater logic simply pisses me off!! 4. Your story touches very deeply..thanks again for your open honesty, it really means so much. Thank you for indulging me but just putting it into a post and getting your feedback is keeping me sane. They meet to part, and fall in love to stop loving. That somehow I was making this up. Not paranoid either, that is the situation. Focus on God and pray for your partner. Puzzled YES to the crap that was dragged up from the past. My new rules: She indeed could turn out to be YOUR unwitting ally if you play your cards right. We get through it with work and fortitude and determination and hope but you dont.get.over.it. He went and got a suitcase and packed up. It makes me unable to do very much and I am normally high functioning. You did hurt me and you knew it would hurt me and you chose to do it anyway. I did not yell or curse or throw things. I suffered alone through most of the affair and the stages of grief, healing, pain, trouble, heartache, etc. She didnt admit to it. I felt nothing would ever, ever be right again and maybe I should not even be alive. ENOUGH!!! Where were you when I was going through all this DDay stuff You are spot on. Christmas is coming and we had a very sudden death in the family and I am emotionally drained and have teenagers and a job and dealing with him. They have two people trying to destroy the M and pull him out of the business. I doubt whether there would be a change in circumstances if you knew before he left or not (about the A). Or does the whole MLC lie dormant for years much like shingles??? Maybe you can plan another soon. Well by my experience I have to say yes. And I suggest find a female as well. The minute I do the detaching he comes pinging back. It provides an opportunity for you to not engage in HIS drama and issues and be further dragged into the black hole. There are no guarantees in life. | Scaring the hell out of the OW was certainly a trump card for me. I still face many personal challenges and I guess I will until the end of life. So I called bullshit on it and later he admitted to grasping at straws as an excuse. Nothing unique or new if it makes you feel better. Lucy Score (Goodreads Author) (shelved 12 times as runaway-bride) avg rating 4.28 210,691 ratings published 2022. UGH. then after about 8 months offer him less $ paid in full in 3-6 months. And I know no one presumes the film to perform bad. At first I thought she was having a midlife crisis but she was only 33 when the bomb supposedly dropped and she announced she was moving out of state to be with her boyfriend who she had been having an affair with. The point is, for anyone, this should not have to even be a comparison. I dont want them settling for some guy who wont love with everything they have. While going NC I went to California for 10 days. Mind you I wasnt using that as a tactic I was sobbingly brokenhearted. This is what I call the put on the bitch boot stage. I understand it must be very hard when a son does this sort of stuff. I so want the outcome you managed to obtain. Next, you must take care of your physical self. Satori Its good to laugh and find a little humor in difficult situations. Way underground. But he may change and decide to come back and beg forgiveness. ?and you will never trust me which is crap as I told him I have no intention of policing him and his whereabouts and trust is given but it has to be honoured. Overall good, possibly life saving. Not sure how but i did. I need help. Life at this time seems like a holiday to be drunk like intoxicated wine and enjoy the pleasure it has received. Separating from a business agreement is harder and more costly. This new person who theyve become is so different than anything we have ever seen. I am only 4 weeks out since my DDay having been abandoned with no notice by my Runaway Husband of nearly 15 years of living together. It started up again and went further underground for another 4 months. The NC thing is tough as my imagination runs riot at the best of times and somehow NC triggers me and reinforces all my feelings of rejection / abandonment. Anyway, Im still trying to process everything. First off, I would hate for any of you to worry about my sensibilities. Not so sure about the shape my sense of humor is in its getting pretty black in there lately !! But if he leaves the business then yes, he is out. He would jokingly complain about turning 50 but he still looked good for his age. Yet somehow it was in hers. I am sure it must have had a very tough time. Anyhow later he dropped our dog back and then about even though he had left I just decided to call him and invite him for dinner. And please get out. The only upside in any of this experience is that I see his games a lot more clearly. Hed learned his lesson and I mine. My final words to him were Well youd better strap yourself in.. This happens over time when a wife sees her husband as disinterested, not cherishing her. I understand how hard this is. I cant remember what it was but I can look for it. Now he is afraid I will D him over this. Learn how your comment data is processed. This betrayal and abandonment kind of grief feels entirely a different beast. Guess thats a no. So you did the right thing not taking her bait. Like you, we were not the type of couple to endlessly ruminate on things in the relationship and talked when things were necessary. Ever since he had this A, though H is trying to walk away, sabotage it, it seems like he wants a totally new life. Many people realize, even on their wedding night, that they have compromised on the overall value of their spouse. I try to see that her abusive and unstable childhood contributed massively to the break up of our marriage and I also humbly look at the part I played in the divorce too. April 27 Police received numerous pieces of evidence that later turned out to be false leads, including large clumps of dark brown hair in an area next to a retention pond, a variety of clothing, and purported murder weapons. Not a text but a phone call. No projecting into the future. No tears just fury. I seem to be swimming through treacle day after day. Cry and vent and get through your grief. Whether it's a girl or a guy. Puzzled, what an amazing man you are. Im still pondering Christmas and the holidays generally. He may be looking at it from a position of my parents and wife cannot be in the same room. but he was once again distant. I know, I know. Satori I am so sorry you are going through this. He said he didnt want to fight with me but that even though the A has ended, he now doesnt want to get back together as he has done so much damage and Id remind him in the future. All brain power focuses on justifying to THEMSELF WHY they are entitled to cheat. But not enough shock to finish the job. The gut feeling that something was amiss was never there. Maybe she will be an ally, or maybe not. Thanks for your thoughts. It was all MY fault. He had her so upset the other day that she called me and said that my ex is evil and parinoid. It takes an extra special person who just walks out of a M with no explanation. Her actions towards me (or lack of actions) were only beginning. One my H always showed up late. Of course H blames you. You have people (even is at EAJ) who are surrounding you and helping however possible. I was the one who had the new bull dog lawyer that every other lawyer hated facing. Lean on the those that love you and are trustworthy. Pretty sure he was drunk when he said this one. A had been going on for 4-5 months. Didnt care what happened to him. As for The Fifth Column, he is not signing and now not mentioning anything. You can now see what so many of us here have been through. Mission accomplished, you got my attention!! Because if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone. So go ahead and scare her anyway you can with your lawyer. And, its quiet. Thats the biggest thing to keep control of going forward. I didnt realise your H left for 3 months! What we do know is that my great-grandmother grew up to be a very bitter woman who hated men. People need to know where we stand and what we will tolerate. I bet his parents are encouraging R. Thing is do you want r because its a little bitch Satori. Im going to print this out and put it in my journal for future reference (regardless of your very naughty swear words LOL!!!). Satori Even the trickiest problems are easily resolved, and, of course, everyone lives happily ever after. I did notice that youd gone kinda silent but I thought maybe you werent in the mood to talk. You nailed it re his delusional thinking to justify his behavior. Good. Once the papers are signed I will have some sort of comfort and order going forward. I think given human behavior you steer clear of relationships that set off the DANGER warning bells. According to Doug there are plenty of people who come to this site who never comment. I guess my last post went unanswered for a while and I thought maybe Id maxed out EAJ! His family to this day does not know what happened. No,MLC is not a recognized medical syndrome but that doesnt mean it doesnt have a medical cause. If the house has had some value added by your H. Just saying!]. It sounds like h and in laws want to rewrite your history together. TFWI dont know if Ive ever felt strong when I was grieving. Anyway got her address And off I went to her house looking for him there. His comment anout R I cant / well that says it all. That summer we had spent traveling France and scuba diving in Corsica. Poor sad sausage will have to get a jib! Their lives continue and we enjoy silent suffering. H is now lying to me all the time. Im hoping thats the last thing she wanted to think about her son that he was having an affair and the havoc he was wreaking upon his life. Wow TFW, you are a beautiful wife! Personally, ones FOO issues is for THEM to figure out not the spouse. When OW contacted him again (3rd time) he never responded and showed me the email immediately. Hes starting to recognize. After he got off plane, (trip where he met OW) he came back with a malaria type illness. No one left me alone for a week after that. I would have further contacted the lending institution and made them aware of the possible liability they were entering into with him. Forgive your husband. Homecoming and all that. So that gives you the upper hand. Its what cheaters do. It even made me laugh as I pictured that mountain of clothes being watered. Which I may just tell now that the OW is dead and cant press charges against me. And you should not be subjected to or a party to his indecisiveness. Im also happy to hear your trip went well and gave you the relief you needed. One of Hs stated fears (this was said the previous day) is that if we reconcile, I will have him totally locked down. If you change your expectations then you will be less surprised and hurt by her. Then suddenly E hooked up with this woman who was chaotic with 4 kids from two previous relationships. Most men dont announce that shit to their mothers. Still a child. so he is mad. We purchased a new home together just seven minutes from work, which was a very big deal because of the commutes and real estate prices in the area. I could not care any less. Why Georgia Isn't Letting Her Off the Hook", "It's to Laugh (or Cry) About: Tragedy or Farce? Im going to call my brother today and lay that down the line! Havent run off. Stunned, as in, I do not know what I just heard, but, did I NOT just ask for the password? It has to be THEIR idea. Rather than take responsibility for his actions, He embraces his new identity wholeheartedly. You will probably want to withdraw a substantial amount of cash if you have it before this happens in order to secure a good attorney. Theres a big difference between being an asshole and assertive. By inviting a third party in to our M, he trashed a sacred space that we spent many years creating. > Recall why you said yes in the first place and see if your reasons are still valid.> Think about what you like, what you love about your future spouse and why these aspects of his personality are so special to you. GGGRRRR shes messing with the wrong grandmother here and shes lucky I didnt rip into her for that one!!! On to the next leg, Ill tune in again when I next get to civilisation. So it is hard to understand HOW OR WHY your H would become unrecognizable and different from the person you knew and Loved and were married to. Its been years now since that day and it does ease with time but still hurts sometimes, like an old wound that is almost healed. Glad you are being good to yourself. I was furious with him. Seriously NC like I hope he doesnt know you are going kind of NC. No one could do it without sleep. And we need to hear other peoples stories.its all part of the healing. 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